I've hurt my husband's feelings and his confidence?

He is 34 years old, a grown man, not as fit as he used to be and took too long in school. I want a child and a house not an apartment. Last year was bad and I had a relative die. I hurt my husband by putting him down about his manhood and his earnings. I told him that he's not a good provider. I don't know why. I also took up for a while with a work colleague he was so young and he paid attention. Nothing happened but I thought about doing something. Then my husband found out and was very hurt. We seemed better because he wanted to talk over a few weeks but I flirted with a mover in front of him and then went out wearing the wrong outfit later that week. He is angry now for several months and I think I have shot his confidence. I do love him and want to be with him but I don't know how to take anything back. We've been together for years and he was in school so long. Part time and then part time work. Then the economy and he doesn't earn enough. I have been patient and have wanted a child for years and he is just so laid back and says we're in our 30s and it will all come in time. How long do I need to wait for this? My friends have their first children and are buying houses! How do I fix things like this?